When the COO randomly called me into his office on Friday afternoon, I walked in with my pen and notebook in hand, completely unaware of the request he was about to make. I was greeted by him and two young children drawing on his whiteboard. My first thought was, “I wonder if he needs a babysitter,” but he quickly interrupted it by asking, “So, you like to travel, right?”
It suffices to say I left his office feeling giddy and pleasantly surprised. But when I got back to my desk, I wondered who I could bring along with me on this trip, as per his suggestion. As I mentally scrolled through my list of friends, I ruled out most and considered a couple of them as potential candidates. While they scored high marks in compatibility, I knew I was looking for something more… something more intimate. Forget Valentine’s Day, this is the moment when I actually felt the desire for a boyfriend.
There, I said it. I’m sure if my Mom ever read this, she’d be glad to know that yes, I am indeed “looking” – albeit not actively, but nonetheless, I am. I guess in a way that contradicts the notion of marriage I’ve been challenging for quite some time now. Is it really necessary? Do people understand the difference between a wedding and a marriage? Why do so many of them end up in divorces? What if he ends up being a Tiger Woods? I came up with more questions than answers, and decided that maybe marriage isn’t for me. (I really hope my Mom isn’t reading this now).
Sure, I’ve had these reservations before too – but let’s face it: I’m a 26 year old woman. That’s roughly equivalent to 36 in Indian years, hence I am way past my prime for what’s considered to be an “appropriate” marriageable age. But regardless of whether you’re brown, female or old, we’ve all been conditioned to seek that someone to join us for the ride. Despite having already traveled thousands of miles, I've learned that the longest distance is really between two people. Ultimately all we're looking for is someone that makes you want to go the extra mile.
Someone whose company helps move security lines at the airport a tad bit quicker, and makes the aisle seat a bit more tolerable. Someone that stays on your mind and makes you feel right at home, even when you’re oceans away. Someone that makes you say “Honey, pack your bags, we're going to... ”
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2 comments:
ahhh so true! such a great post! I think its a natural instinct, we're always "looking" even if we don't think or say we are. It's basically all about timing when it comes to finding that person we're "destined" to be with.
I think there is one problem with your conclusion in that you pulled the Indian mother "boyfriend = marriage" card. There is a clear demarcation between a boyfriend and husband
I have always felt that intimacy is what makes a good boyfriend/girlfriend, but a good life partner makes a good spouse. You hope for both when you marry, but as we see in many arranged marriages, the intimacy may not be necessary for a long lasting marriage.
So why worry about marriage when you are looking for something else?? Cause in the end, no one likes flying solo.
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