The One

Whether you’re a believer of soul mates or a fan of speed dating, everyone has some preconceived notion of their ideal mate. Although often times, what we want is quite contrary to what we end up with. In such cases, people either change their expectations or simply change their partners. But when do you stop searching… and stop waiting for ‘the one’ to arrive? Do our hearts come equipped with some sort of a biological clock like woman’s ovaries do?

Sometimes you meet someone that you think/hope/pray/truly believe is the one… and soon realize that you did indeed find the one – just the wrong one -- in which case, you go back to square one. So when do you open your eyes from this blind optimism and let go of something you hoped to hold onto forever? Perhaps we’re afraid of letting go because we fear there will be no one there to catch us. Maybe the person that you thought was made for you (and yes, only you), is just someone you made out to be a safety net. After all, when you fall for a person, you do it in the hopes they’ll be there to catch you.

In reality, there will be many “ones” in your life. There will always be the one that broke your heart, the one that got away, the one that you can’t stand, the one that gives you sleepless nights… And there will be the one that had it all – who in my case – had a plus one as well.

So when will waiting for the ‘the one’… be done? Dare I say… one day.